Looking for Big Trouble?
Want to date an angry man-hating control freak?
(me neither)

Just by looking at a few key letters can help you, and your friends, avoid a relationship full of games, betrayals, and emotional heartaches. (Read the Secrets to Making Love Happen book for full details of the Hell Traits.)

Here is how it stacks up.

The difference between an expert handwriting analyst and an amatuer is how well he or she can "stack" different strokes in the handwriting to establish a fuller "whole" personality profile.

One of the most common questions I get from radio call-in callers is this,"How can I spot a Jerk from his handwriting?" And, from nice guys looking for a real relationship,"How do I spot a user, player, or man-hater that is just sees men for the game or my money?"

(Drum roll, please.)

Here is the answer. I have numbered them 1-9. If they have only one of the nine, you might be okay. The writer WILL have ISSUES, but won't be a threat to your bank account or your heart. However, if she has all NINE, or SIX, or even FOUR... you have discovered "big trouble waiting to a happen."

My advice. RUN, Don't walk the nearest exit. Even if the woman has a core of pure child-like love, it is obviously masked with so much anger and baggage, you would have to dig for years to see the light of that sweet girl inside. Her "ego defense" mechanisms are too strong and the anger and habits relating to love are too deep to justify a real relationship. (Same thing for a man with these traits.)

Hey, if you want just have some fun... go on a date. If you want to get your heart involved, stay away.

P.S. If you add a low t-bar to all this, you get someone who really is masking a low self-esteem with all the hostility. It is possible to have "big trouble" with good self-esteem. If you see that, the issues are a lack of "love" and an inability to trust, which relate to being "unlovable", not necessarily self-esteem. Although, one would have to consider these two issues inter-connected.

Here are my top TROUBLE TRAITS.. listed one by one.

STACK THESE TRAITS TOGETHER AND YOU GET BIG TROUBLE....

1. Stinger. Common in 40% of Americans. Signifies a need for a challenge and a deep seeded resentment toward strong members of the opposite sex. It can manifest when becoming bored with nice guys and only being attracted to disfunctional "rebel" types. This usually, but not always, indicates an unresolved issue of "love/hate" between the opposite gendered parent.

2. Sarcasm. Not a horrible trait alone. But this is the "hostile"defense mechanism that can "cut you" if used for covering up for real anger or deep insecurities.

3. Domineering/ Dominant. This is the control freak part. T-bars slanting down are a need for control Which, essentially, is a FEAR of not being in control. FEAR motivates people in strong ways. Furthermore, if the t-bar has pointed tips... sarcasm. This person will control people with sarcasm and caustic behavoir. This is the bully trait.

4. Stubborn. A fear of being wrong. An inability change quickly or admit they are wrong. Again, a defense mechanism for an insecure ego or damaged self-esteem.

5. Anti-Social indicates a big fear of trusting others and getting emotionally hurt. Therefore, in a dating situation, this person will avoid intimacy as a long as possible. So, if you are dating a "game player" with anti-social y's... you might get emotionally involved and he will not. When I see this, I feel sorry for the person because he or she is unable to give and receive love easily. Again, it is a fear of being hurt. (Common after a divorce.)

6. Defiance. A rebellious streak. The "go to hell K". This trait is very common, but only very bad if combined with all these other traits. This would also MIGHT indicate a fear of comittment. Someone who values "freedom" very high on their "values" list.

7. Argumentative. This is the same stroke as aggressiveness in the lower zones. The only difference is that it is located in the letter p, which indicates VERBAL aggressiveness... or argumentativeness. Another fear of being wrong. A pain in the ass trait.

8. Lying. These double loops in the o indicate a fear of telling the truth. Naturally, if honesty or TRUST is a high emotional value of yours.. this is a RED FLAG you must notice.

9. Low self-esteem (not pictured.) This compounds all the above traits and makes the person "more defensive."

10. Overly sensitive to criticism. This also compounds all the above traits and makes the person even "more defensive."

11. Sample of a "HINT of TROUBLE." (This sample was witten by a 27year old female in German on a napkin, in a bar, after drinking.)

So, any questions? RUN AWAY. RUN AWAY. RUN AWAY.